Here is the thing. I am a mess. My life is a mess, but it’s my mess so I’m pretty attached. I don’t have very many things figured out, and most days it’s hard enough to just put one foot in front of the other, but I am putting one foot in front of the other. Did you ever notice that people will judge even how you choose to put one foot in front of the other?
Don’t let em’. People don’t get to choose how you take care of yourself. People don’t get to choose what makes you feel better. People don’t get to choose what’s best for you. You do. Make the best choice that you know how at the time, and then understand this…You don’t have to defend it.
I’ve been stuck on that; defending it. Here is the thing though…People don’t see the worst of you. They don’t see when you are clinging on to a semi good day because it’s been so long since you’ve had what you can call a good day. People don’t see the struggling, and the fear. They think they do, but they don’t….Not the dark and twisty stuff. The dark and twisty stuff can get really bad, and it sneaks up on you. All of a sudden you can’t breathe because life is overwhelming you. So for all my fellow dark and twisty friends that are just trying to enjoy a semi good day; kudos to you! You are coping and that’s an important part of self care.
Self care is probably one of the most important things in life, and it’s ignored all too often. Don’t be one of those people who ignored it for too long and is now struggling to catch up. Here is some ideas if you don’t know where to start.
- Find your person, and use them! Don’t be afraid to tell them the stuff that you’d rather keep buried because that is why you have a person.
- Don’t be afraid to try therapy. I am a huge advocate for therapy. I believe in what it does and that it can be helpful to those struggling.
- Journal. If you can’t say what is going on out loud than it least write it down because you have to come to terms with that fact that sometimes life sucks, and that’s okay.
- Don’t try to ignore it. Ignoring it causes it all to build up until you feel like you’ll explode. I have days when I’d like to hide under a rock, but I haven’t because I know that it won’t do any good.
- In the long run; do what works for you. Don’t take my advice or any ones advice because they are not you. They don’t know what will help you. You may not know what will help you, but you’re trying, and that counts.
“Have some fire.
Be a force of nature.
Be better than anyone here,
and don’t give a damn
what anyone thinks.”
(Christina Yang-Greys Anatomy.)